ld at a restaurant. Ask her how she’d handle it and how she was disciplined as a child. Either we tend to follow the way we were raised, or, if something was objectionable about the way we were raised, we do the opposite. Different parenting styles can cause the most strain on a marriage because they can be a daily, even hourly, source of conflict.
8. Genetics
Ask her: What do your parents like to drink? It’s important to know if there’s a history of alcoholism in her family. Health problems like depression and alcoholism have a strong genetic component. If her mother had depression or her father was a chronic alcoholic, there’s a good chance it could creep up and become a problem. It’s not a relationship killer, but talking about hereditary health risks early will make it easier to discuss the same conflicts should they pop up in your relationship.
9. Your Potential In-Laws
Ask her: How have your parents reacted to your previous boyfriends? You should find out whether they’ll think the current boyfriend is good enough for their little princess (and whether they’ll pay big bucks for the wedding). If her parents don’t approve, there’s a potential problem. Not that that’s necessarily a deal breaker. Who are you marrying, her or them? What’s more important is to learn something about your girlfriend by how she responds. Is she the kind of girl who wants to please Mommy and Daddy? Or is she secure enough with herself to make her own life decisions?
10. Her Father
Ask her: What was your relationship with your father like? This helps you find out her attitude toward men. Especially toward the one who mattered most (before you). If her father was distant and cold, she may seek male approval. If her father was abusive or a cheat, she may have trouble trusting men. If there’s any unfinished business in her relationship with her father, it could manifest itself in your relationship. When people get into serious relationships, they tend to look to their mate to give them everything they need. Couples get into trouble when they don’t look closely at these tendencies early on. You also should consider her relationship with her mother, which could have the very same implications. If she can’t pee without calling her mother to tell her all the details, that’s not going to change after you walk down the aisle.
11. And the Ultimate Question . . .
Finally, you need to ask yourself this: “Can I ask these questions and have an honest, intelligent conversation with this woman when we disagree?”
Because if you can’t, none of her answers really matter.
Source: IN.com